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Saturday, April 7, 2012

The moans of the women during sex, is about orgasm?

Whether the image they have learned from adult films, by their own preconceptions or ignorance, many men think that the more noise does a woman in bed, the closer to orgasm. However, researchers at the University of Central Lancashire in Presto, England found that on the contrary, the sounds made ​​during sex women are not necessarily related to that they are about to reach ecstasy.

The study , which conducted with 71 sexually active heterosexual women between the ages of 18 to 48 years, showed that the "copulatory vocalization" of women was reported more frequently before or during ejaculation of man and not both at the time of female orgasm. Furthermore, it emerged that the girls voluntarily controlled to manipulate sounds and actions expected of the man.

Also, 66% of women said they used their moans to accelerate their partner's ejaculation to acquire relief either because of discomfort or pain, fatigue or time constraints. Similarly, 92% thought that the vocalization helped his partner to have better self esteem and 68% said they would stay with their partner even if not good in bed. In addition, the investigation led to light that women had a lower tendency to experience orgasm after penetration by your partner and mostly just acquired an orgasm after self-stimulation, masturbation by a partner or oral sex.

15 reasons to have sex for the health


If you enjoy having sex, you will like to know who is also a healthy way to prevent disease. Improve your fitness, your blood pressure, your heart, you relieve pain, lengthen your life and to look better. Need more reasons to put aside the excuses and dedicating yourself to love?

Reason # 1: It's like going to the gym


Sex is a form of Exercise, like walking or running. The pulsations DURING intercourse Increased from 70 to 150 beats per minute, would happen to the Same DURING an athlete training. Having sex three times a week burns up to 600 calories and stay fit THROUGHOUT the

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Addition to the cardiovascular benefit, produced muscle contractions in HAVING Different body areas like the pelvis, thighs, buttocks, arms, neck and chest. Sexual activity Also Increases the production of the hormone testosterone That Helps Strengthen bones and muscles.

Reason # 2: Improving your heart


Sex stimulates the activity of various organs, including your heart. According to a Queens University study have sex two or more times per week reduces the risk of heart attack by half, compared with those who have sex once a month.

Reason # 3: Decrease the pain
Serves no longer the famous excuse of headache to not have sex. Several studies Indicate That keeping the sex you reduce headaches and pains, as Before orgasm, increase Levels of the hormone oxytocin, Which in turn releases endorphins, relieves pain and headaches Which corporles.

Oxytocin is a natural sedative


If You have a headache, bone or premenstrual discomfort is nothing better than a sexual advance. A study published in the Bulletin of Experimental Biology and Medicine 48 Volunteers Reported That They steam did inhale oxytocin and Then suffered pain in Their fingers, They Reported That the hormone Reduced pain by half.

Reason # 4: Prevents Prostate Cancer


It is known that prostate disorders are the result of secretions from the gland and regular sexual activity to clear secretions. According to recent studies, ejaculate frequently may reduce the risk for prostate cancer.

More sex of young, lower Risk


Australian Researchers Found That this does not OCCUR prevention at Any Time of Life, But Especially In Men Than When They Were About 20 years HAD frequent intercourse. A study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found That Men Who Had frequent ejaculations, 21 or more a month, Have a lower prostate cancer of Risk Compared With Men who ejaculated Between 4 and 7 times per month.

Reason # 5: Reduce stress


A Scottish research journal Biological Piscología Studied 24 women and 22 men who Kept a record of your sexual activity and stress Were Exposed Situations Such As typical speaking in research público.La Found That Those Who Had more sex more responsive to stress.

Reason # 6: Low blood pressure


Another study aimed to test the relationship between stress and blood pressure, managed to associate the reduction in diastolic pressure with the frequency of sex and even the number of hugs I get a woman might be related to a lower blood pressure.

Reason # 7: Improve the relationship


Love and affection can increase the level of oxytocin, a hormone That Increases sexual desire and feelings of affection the other you, especially after climax. Do not you feel after an orgasm you love your partner or more than life smiles at you? That is oxytocin.

Reason # 8: Increases in life expectancy


lengthens sex life. An investigation by the Queens University in Ireland, 1000 Compared people of like age and health condition and found people who Had the Highest frequency of orgasm, a death rate half Showed That Those Who had sex sporadically.


Reason # 9: Improve your defenses


Having sex regularly, that is two or three times a week benefits your immune system. According to a study of Wilkes University in Pennsylvania, having sex once or twice a week increases the presence of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which protects us from infections and colds.


Reason # 10: less urinary incontinence


Many women after childbirth or With Age Noticed That Sometimes When you sneeze, cough or laugh When They Have Difficulty controlling the urine due to a weakening of Their pelvic muscles. Kegel exercises are recommended That your physician will use Them When you have sex.

Reason # 11: Improve your sleep


The release of the hormone oxytocin Also Helps Improve and induces sleep naturally. Moreover, sleep is associated Improving With A healthier lifestyle and Improving physical Various Symptoms Such As blood pressure. No longer a secret why Many fall asleep after making love.

Reason # 12: Your skin will look beautiful


Women after having sex twice produced amounts of estrogen and a hormone that promotes youth known by its acronym in English DHEA, providing the skin softness and shine. On the other hand, produces perspiration that is the natural mechanism of skin to remove impurities and unclog pores.

Reason # 13: Your posture Improves


DURING intercourse using your abs and glutes (buttocks). These muscles support your lower back. If These muscles are strong and in good condition, Improve Your back and your posture in general. You'll look best in front and back.

Reason # 14: Fighting Depression


DURING orgasms or Just Before ejaculation, the level of the hormone DHEA in the blood is 5 times what Greater than normal. This steroid is present in women and men too. High Levels of DHEA are Associated with longevity, Increased desire, Improve mood in a significant overall improvement and to of depressive state.

Reason # 15: Improve your self-esteem


The University of Texas has published a manual with 237 reasons to have sex which includes an elevated self-esteem. Having sex makes us feel better about ourselves, we are moAst beautiful, desirable, reassures us and gives us happiness without side effects.

Jane Fonda: Sex at 70


One of the secrets to staying young Jane Fonda and radiant despite her 73 years, is nothing less than sex. In His new book "Prime Time" Reveals That At This age women, need to Encourage Their Husbands to have sex pleasurable and healthy.

Tantric Sex: Learn Something New from Something Ancient


Do you wish your sex life could be more spiritual and erotic-and maybe even open a door to the sublime? If so, you might want to consider Tantric sex.
One quick disclaimer, however: "Tantrism" is an Eastern philosophy that refers to a range of spiritual concepts and practices (including yoga), so it is not just about sex. As Judy Kuriansky, PhD, author of several books on Tantrism notes: "Tantra is a spiritual path that involves very specific practices that use breath, sounds, movements, and symbols to quiet the mind and activate sexual energy...these practices also help heal past hurts, often stored in sexual centers of the body, so that you can be more fully present in the moment and open to love."
Tantric sex involve learning to love yourself and your partner in a deep sacred and life-giving manner. It is about celebrating your physical body and the ecstasy it can produce, while releasing negative self-judgments and inhibition. It is about using sexuality as a vehicle to actively transcend your awareness of time, let go of your ego and commune with humanity and nature, thereby moving toward enlightenment.
Tantric sex was introduced in the United States in the 1960s. However, Tantric ideas sound more radical today than they did a few decades ago. For instance, in Tantric sex one goal is to come into a state of "hypersuggestibility." This is the state of mind reached when hypnotized, meditating or approaching orgasm, according to Mark Michaels, author of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. In Tantrism, self pleasuring can be used to open the door to suggestibility. Here's how to do that: As you reach high levels of excitement just before orgasm, concentrate on "feeling wonderful." "When you are in such a highly receptive state, [this] suggestion is taken deep into the mind and can extend into all areas of life," notes Michaels.
Tantric principles can be applied to sex with a partner as well.. Detailed techniques involve serving one another through slow and deliberate massage and stimulation of the primary, secondary and tertiary erogenous zones. In Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century, author Barbara Carrellas encourages couples to focus on "conscious touch." This requires that you learn not only how you like to be touched, but also how your partner prefers to be touched. According to Carrellas, "Ask your partner to tell you when a touch is too hard or too light. When you get feedback, you can easily make an adjustment, and your hands will memorize it."
To feel Tantra in action, here is a stimulating exercise that you can perform without even leaving your chair.
  1. Relax your mind. Sit with your knees bent and feet tucked under your buttocks. Squeeze your thighs and buttocks together and focus on tightening the muscles in the anal area. This area is the source of your sexual energy. It is very important to be mindful of regulating breathing in and releasing the breath while contracting muscles.
  2. Once you are comfortable with this process, add another step: press your tongue against the back of your top teeth. Hold, release, and repeat three times.
  3. Now try pressing your tongue to the top of your teeth while visualizing excitement in your genitals. If your muscles contracted involuntarily, you have just experienced sahaja, or "the natural state in which man and woman become focused on their inner being," according to Michaels.
If there is one overarching principle of Tantric sex, it is that you should stay in the present moment. Stop worrying about other things you need to do with your day. Release your judgments about yourself and your partner and your expectations of what sex "should" be. Surrender to the moment and enjoy sensations throughout your body. Tantra may boost and regenerate your sex drive and increase your health and happiness.
There are a number of excellent books available about Tantra, including those cited in this article. So if your curiosity is piqued, definitely explore further!

Sex After 50


They say that 50 is the new 40. What they don't say is that while you might act and feel younger at 50 than your mother did even at 40, your body is still 50 years old. That typically means a significiant drop in estrogen levels. Beyond the hot flashes and night sweats, such a decline can also lead to changes in your sexual function and reproductive system.

As you probably know, sex starts in the brain, not the vagina. And the part of the brain responsible for sexual function and mood—the hypothalamus—is a hotbed of estrogen receptors. That means estrogen, along with testosterone, likely plays a role in your initial desire.

And, it turns out that estrogen is to your vagina what moisturizer is to your face—and more! It's critical for keeping things moist, healthy and flexible down there. The vagina, clitoris, urethra (the tube leading from the outside of your body to the bladder), bladder and other urogenital components all contain significant numbers of estrogen receptors. That means they rely on estrogen for healthy functioning. As estrogen levels decline and less reaches these tissues, they literally atrophy or shrink, not just dry up—sometimes resulting in a significant negative effect on your sex life.

Let's start with the vagina. Without sufficient estrogen, it becomes dry and less acidic, increasing the risk of infection. It takes longer to get lubricated for sex, even if you're ready and full of desire. Over time, estrogen deficiency can lead to more significant changes in the entire urinary/genital area, including reduced blood flow to the vagina, and the tissue itself becomes thin and weak. The result: dryness, irritation and pain upon intercourse, also called dyspareunia.

Estrogen loss also can lead to changes in the size and sensitivity of the vulva, vagina and clitoris, as well as reducing blood flow to these areas.

Estrogen isn't the only hormone you need to worry about, however. Testosterone also plays a role in your sexual desire and satisfaction. Unlike estrogen, testosterone levels don't suddenly plummet at menopause, but, rather, decline gradually beginning in your mid-20s. By the time you reach menopause, your body is producing about half as much as it did when you were in your 20s.

Researchers are still debating testosterone's role in women's sexuality. They think it contributes to blood flow and arousal of the clitoris and labia (the tissue around the vagina) which, in turn, contributes to arousal and orgasm. Hormone receptors are prevalent in the hypothalamus, the part of the brain that controls sexual function and mood. So, it appears that both estrogen and testosterone may influence getting a woman "in the mood."

But the precise role of testosterone in female sexual desire is still being determined. Although most studies confirm that testosterone is strongly related to sexual drive, the correlation between sexual problems and low levels or testosterone is inconsistent (that is, testosterone levels do not predict sexual desire levels). More research is needed to define the significance of testosterone levels in women and what constitutes "normal" testosterone levels in postmenopausal women.

Nonetheless, studies find that women with abnormally low levels of testosterone benefit sexually with supplemental testosterone. We also know that taking oral estrogen could reduce levels of available testosterone by increasing the amount of sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG). Testosterone links up with SHBG, making it useless to sexuality.

These are all issues to consider when you broach the topic of sexual desire and sex with your health care professional. And I definitely recommend it as a topic worth exploring.

That's because there are medical options to counteract the estrogen drop. For instance, topical estrogen in the form of a cream, ring or pill inserted into the vagina can help restore tissue health, flexibility and lubrication to your vagina with few of the side effects known to affect women who take oral estrogen. In fact, studies on these products find extremely high rates of improvement in dyspareunia, with up to 93 percent of women reporting significant improvement and between 57 and 75 percent saying that their sexual comfort was restored, depending on the approach used.

If you'd rather not go the estrogen route, consider using some of the over-the-counter products designed to increase sexual comfort. Long-lasting vaginal moisturizers provide relief from vaginal dryness for up to four days, possibly making intercourse less painful. They have no effect on the underlying cause of vaginal dryness.

If your sexual problems appear related to low testosterone, your doctor may suggest a trial of a topical testosterone gel or even the insertion of a testosterone pellet. Although not FDA-approved for use in women, it is sometimes used "off-label" for this purpose.

On the other end of the spectrum are sexual issues that arise apropos of nothing hormonal or medical; they are simply the result of time and/or relationship issues. For instance, the whole myth about women losing interest in sex around the time of menopause may result from simple boredom. After all, studies find that while the frequency of sex drops by half in the first year of marriage, it takes another 20 years to see such a large drop again—right around middle age. Could it be that women (and men) simply tire of their partners? That sex has become all-too-routine?

One recent study to evaluate sexuality in women pre- and post-menopause is the Women's International Study on Health Sexuality (WISHeS). Researchers mailed a survey to 25,000 U.S. women between the ages of 20 and 70. More than half (14,605) completed it and mailed it back. The study found that between 24 percent and 36 percent of women, whether postmenopausal, surgically postmenopausal or premenoapausal, had low sexual desire. In other words, the lack of sexual interest was not tied to age, but to other problems such as arousal, orgasm or reduced pleasure.

The question about how common sexual function is in women of all ages remains uncertain. The 2008 PRESIDE (Prevalence and Correlates of Female Sexual Disorders and Determinants of Treatment Seeking) trial, a large, national study, reported the overall prevalence of sexual disorders to be 12 percent when including subjects meeting the "distress" criteria for a true diagnosis and over 40 percent for subjects reporting a sexual problem. Other studies of "older" women include reports of "problems" (not necessarily diagnoses) and therefore show rates as high as 43 percent for low desire, 39 percent with poor lubrication and 34 percent with inability to achieve orgasm.

Interestingly, the PRESIDE data indicated that sexual dysfunctions associated with distress were more common between the ages of 45 and 65 (versus both younger and older women). One reason for this may be that older women may have modified expectations about sexual function and can therefore experience greater satisfaction in their sexual lives despite the inevitable consequences of an aging body.

Bottom line: You deserve a dynamic, exciting sex life (if you want it) no matter what your age. By exploring the reasons for changes in your sex life with your partner and your health care professional and taking the necessary steps to resolve any problems, you can have it!

Sex After Surgery

So your doctor has recommended that you undergo gynecologic surgery: maybe a hysterectomy to get rid of fibroids; maybe surgery to lessen incontinence by "tightening up" prolapsed, or fallen, organs resulting from pregnancy and childbirth. The doctor answered all your questions about the surgery itself. But, what you want to know now is how it will affect your sex life.

Let's take a look.

Hysterectomy. How a hysterectomy affects your sex life depends, in part, on the type of hysterectomy you have. On the other hand, a hysterectomy may relieve symptoms that were affecting your sex life prior to surgery, such as fibroids. In one survey of 678 women, 24 percent of women whose ovaries were removed as part of the hysterectomy said their sex lives were worse after the surgery, compared to just 11 percent of those whose ovaries were preserved. Plus, 74 percent of women who kept their ovaries said their post-surgical sex lives were better compared to 55 percent of women whose ovaries were removed (the remainder of the women said their sex lives hadn't changed).

The difference may be due to the loss of androgens, which are produced in the ovaries and play a role in sexual desire.

Overall, however, reviews of studies on sexual function following hysterectomy generally find that women say their sex lives are either better or the same after surgery, but it's important to note that a hysterectomy will not cure sexual dysfunction. In addition, women who have healthy sex lives before surgery will likely continue to have healthy sex lives post-surgery. As you might expect, a major component in terms of how well their post-surgical sex lives went depended on their relationship with their partner. Another determining component? The worse their pre-surgical menstrual pain, the better the women rated their post-surgical sex lives. This is also true for women suffering from pain with sex, a condition known as dyspareunia.

Surgery for pelvic organ prolapse and urinary incontinence. These conditions often lead women to stop having sex altogether because of incontinence during sex.

Surgery to correct incontinence related to organ prolapse includes the use of synthetic slings or tape to hold organs in place. One of the few studies on sex after such surgery showed mixed results. Some women demonstrated significant improvement on tests designed to measure sexual function-including how often they have sex-while others reported that they were less able to achieve orgasm and that they and their partners were less satisfied with their sex life after the surgery.

In this study, however, the women were only followed for six months after surgery; their sex lives may have improved had more time been allowed for healing during the assessment. The researchers also didn't know why these women's sexual satisfaction declined, but suggested it could be due to worry that sexual intercourse might damage the surgical repair.

No matter what type of gynecologic surgery you're having, talk with your health care provider about your concerns regarding sex following surgery. Ask your doctor to carefully go through all the potential complications and what he or she will do to avoid them; what you should do post-surgically to ensure healing; and how long it will be before you can resume intercourse.

Also, talk with your partner about any upcoming surgery and the effects it might have on your physical health, as well as your sex life. If you're likely to be out of commission for a bit after surgery, consider asking other family members for help during the healing process (e.g., cooking meals, doing laundry), so you can get back on your feet and back to your sex life when you're healed.

Sexual Health: One Good Reason to Exercise

If your libido has been lacking lately, it might be time to hit the gym.

No, not to scope out the bodybuilders, but to get yourself into better physical shape. Exercise, no matter what type you prefer, not only helps improve your overall health, but it may also improve your sexual health.

That's because your health, cholesterol level and how well your body uses insulin, are all linked to your sexual health. Additionally, your weight may affect some aspects of your sexual health as well.

Let's start with metabolic syndrome. This condition is marked by high blood pressure, abdominal obesity (typically, more than 35 inches around the waist for women, 40 inches for men), insulin resistance high blood levels of insulin, low HDL "good" cholesterol and high triglycerides. If you have at least three of these markers, you may have metabolic syndrome.10a You also may have a significantly higher risk of heart disease and diabetes. And now we know that you also have a higher risk of sexual dysfunction.

In one study, researchers enrolled 100 premenopausal women with metabolic syndrome and assessed their sexual function with a commonly used test called the Female Sexual Function Index (FSFI). Compared to women without metabolic syndrome, those with the condition had a significantly lower FSFI score. While 77 percent of women without metabolic syndrome had "good" sexual function, just 55 percent of those with the condition did. In addition, about a third of women with metabolic syndrome had an "intermediate" function and nine percent had poor function compared to 21 percent and two percent respectively.

Women with diabetes are also more likely to have sexual problems, with one study finding that nearly 78 percent of the women had low libido compared to just 20 percent of women without diabetes. Numerous reasons could be behind the difference, including lack of lubrication, possibly from insufficient blood flow to the vaginal area.

Then there's obesity, which also increases the risk of hypertension, diabetes and metabolic syndrome, as well as cardiovascular disease and numerous other medical conditions. One study found that sexual satisfaction was strongly linked with body mass index (BMI). Women already diagnosed with female sexual dysfunction who were overweight or obese had significantly lower FSFI scores in the areas of arousal, lubrication, orgasm and sexual satisfaction.

So, what are the best ways to reduce your risk of obesity, and therefore diabetes and metabolic syndrome-not to mention numerous other conditions? Exercise and diet!

In one study, 33 women with metabolic syndrome and sexual problems followed a Mediterranean-style diet high in fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole grains and olive oil, with more fish than red meat. After two years, the women's blood glucose, insulin and triglyceride levels improved, as did their blood pressure. Most relevant to our focus: their FSFI scores also improved!

Although there haven't been any controlled studies evaluating the effects of exercise on sexual function as yet, we know it is one of the ways to improve the components of metabolic syndrome as well as help with weight loss and restoration of overall well-being.

Also, there's other benefits to exercise. For example, by getting your body in shape, you may feel better about yourself. And studies show that self-esteem and body image can be closely tied to a woman's sexual desire.

So get out there and walk! Take a pilates or yoga class, or hop on your bike! Take up tennis or swimming or Zumba, an aerobic workout based on Latin dance rhythms. Just get out there and move! The benefits to your heart and love life may surprise you!

Understanding Your Sex Drive: When One of You Wants It More

Remember when you first started dating your partner? Remember the emotional and physical excitement you felt? And when you finally went to bed together...well, does the experience still make you blush? Were those your golden days of sex—when lovemaking was energizing, intense and something you couldn't wait to do?
But now, after five years, a kid, perhaps, and a mortgage, have things changed? Maybe you've changed. Maybe your partner is still happy to have sex as often as he shaves, but for you sex has possibly become just one more thing on your to-do list. If you have sex once a week, heck, even once every two weeks, you're happy. Well, maybe not so happy. Maybe you're wondering what is wrong with you that you don't want to have sex as often as your partner. After all, it's possible some of your girlfriends complain about just the opposite: that they want to have sex more often than their partners!

The ironic thing is that you still like making love. You usually have an orgasm, you always feel more relaxed afterward, and the two of you are definitely closer in the days following.
So what's going on?
It's possible you are changing and you and he have some differences. One way to put this into perspective is to think about how you and your partner differ in other ways. He likes to play golf every weekend; you'd rather curl up with a book. You could eat ice cream every night; he's happy with it once a month. Get the picture? As in many things, you are different when it comes to your individual sex drives.
The question is whether something else might be going on. After all, drive is only part of what comprises desire. Motivation is the other just-as-important part. Motivation reflects the psychological and interpersonal factors that create a willingness or interest to be sexual with your partner. For instance, some research suggests that when one partner in a relationship has a low sex drive, it could be a way of gaining control in the relationship by unconsciously "withholding" sex. This represents a motive, albeit one against sex. Or it could be a way of demonstrating your unhappiness with the relationship. In other words, if you are unhappy with your relationship, you have no interest in having sex with someone you are not happy with outside of the bedroom.
But say you're happy in the relationship. Say you really do love your partner, and you really wish that your sex drive were just as...driven. You just don't have the motivation right now to get it there.
Here are a few suggestions that could help rekindle your passion:
  • Sit down and have an open and honest talk about your differences in sex drive. Talking about the issues can help improve communication and intimacy.
  • Tell your husband/partner/lover that while you are flattered by the obvious sexual desire for you, and while your love is strong, you just can't reciprocate as often.
  • Explain to your partner that saying "no, not tonight," is not a personal rejection. You're saying no because of a difference in sex drive—a difference in craving, if you will.
  • Act as a team to ease defensiveness and solve your differences about how often you want to have sex.
  • Work on compromise. So, for instance, if your partner wants sex five times a week and you want sex once a week (or less), perhaps try having sex twice a week for awhile.
  • Schedule the sex just as you would schedule a pedicure or haircut. By scheduling in sex and spending the days and hours leading up to the "appointment" thinking about it, you are, at the same time, putting yourself into a sexual state of mind.
After a month, have another sit-down discussion with your partner. How are things working out? Is your partner feeling more physically satisfied? Are you feeling more connected? Are the two of you still enjoying the lovemaking?
If so, it might be time to move things along to the next level. Start by making another "sex date." Because here's the thing: The more often you make love, the more you may find yourself wanting to make love!
But, what if the opposite occurs? Instead of wanting to have sex more often, you find that your desire really hasn't changed and, after a few weeks of trying, you really don't want to make love—not even twice a week. Now it's time for your partner to make concessions.
For instance, you will be the initiator for the next month. You both agree that you will only have intercourse when you initiate it. See how that goes, and after a month, add up how often you made love. Talk about how you both felt. If either of you felt the amount of lovemaking was problematic, that's when it's time to consult a professional.
Start with your health care professional to make sure there is nothing physically wrong; then, consider meeting with a sex or couples therapist.
And remember, the most important component of any sexually related issue is not the sex itself, but how you communicate about the sex and your individual desires and satisfaction.

Don't Be Shy: Tools to Help Make Sex Fun

One of the greatest things about sex is its ability to help you release your inhibitions. Sometimes, though, sex can start to feel a bit routine, especially when you and your partner have been together awhile. Whether you've hit a sexual roadblock or just want to introduce some new passion into your love life, consider adding a bit of play to your repertoire with—dare we say it—sexual toys.
Vibrators

One study in particular revealed that more than half of the women in the United States reported using a vibrator. Also, women in the study who used them reported higher levels of desire and arousal, as well as more orgasms, than women who don't use them.
It turns out that men use them, too. One study found that one in 10 men said they'd used a vibrator on themselves or their partner in the past month.
The beauty of vibrators is their versatility. With different shapes and sizes, battery-operated handhelds to virtually unbreakable plug-in models with warranties, there's a vibrator for just about everyone. The important thing is that you find the one that best suits what you are looking for.
Lubricants
The reality is that some women, particularly those in their late 40s and 50s, may need a bit of help with lubrication. Back in the old days, women had one or two options with all the sexual appeal of a cold bath. Today, a quick visit to any online pharmacy or even the local chain drugstore offers your pick of products, including those that promise to be warming, tingling, flavored, environmentally friendly or all of the above.
Take your time. If you have to try a few before you find the one you prefer, so be it.
Just keep in mind that if you are using a latex condom you should use water-based lubricants as you don't want to damage the condom with other types of lubricants. Any oil based lubricant, including body lotions will damage latex condoms.
Arousal Gels
Arousal gels are the latest thing. These are not just marketing gimmicks, but science at work. For instance, niacin, aka vitamin B3, applied directly to the genital area dilates blood vessels to bring more blood to the surface of the skin, increasing arousal.
Getting the Goods
Now, you may be thinking that this is all great, but how are you going to find these items, especially if you are a bit shy? Good news again! If you live in a city, there's likely a great sex toy store somewhere near you. We're not talking X-rated bookstores here, but welcoming, woman-operated businesses with trained, professional staffs.
You can also shop online - a great option if you prefer to browse in the privacy of your home. However, do your due diligence when shopping online; check out the website thoroughly including where you are buying the product(s) from and where the company is based.
If you want to be able to access toys in a safe and friendly environment, consider attending or hosting an in-home women's sex toy party. The women who facilitate these events are comfortable answering questions about a range of sexual needs, and women who attend say they love the woman-only environment.

Sex During Pregnancy: What Works, What Doesn't

Congratulations on your pregnancy! The next several months will be a time of growth (literally and figuratively), wonder and change.
Speaking of which...you're probably already wondering about lifestyle changes. Hopefully, you've committed to a smoke-free, alcohol-free pregnancy both for your own health and that of your baby. And, hopefully, you've talked to your health care professional about diet and exercise, your work routine and any signs or symptoms that might spark worry.
But have you thought about your sex life? Yes, sex. Believe it or not, there can be Sex During Pregnancy: What Works, What Doesn't!

First, let's talk about Sex During Pregnancy: What Works, What Doesn't, as in, "Will I want it?" One study found that 82 percent of women thought sexual activity should occur throughout the entire pregnancy, and an analysis of several studies found that only about 10 percent of women abstain entirely throughout their pregnancies. Clearly, sex is happening, it can be satisfying and safe, and it can strengthen the bond between a couple.
Some women seem to want to have more sex during their first and second trimesters-although not their third. That's not to say that late pregnancy sex is entirely out of the question! One study of 188 women found that 80 percent participated in sexual activities (including intercourse) during their third trimester. And, during their birth week, 39 percent had intercourse. However, when women actively avoid sex during their third trimester, studies find that it is mainly because they fear bringing on early labor or hurting the baby. Interestingly, other research finds that women tend not to have as many orgasms during their third trimester, and that their clitorises are not as sensitive (which could account for the orgasm decline). Women also report more vaginal discomfort as pregnancy progresses.
However, if you want to have sex throughout your pregnancy and your health care professional gives you the green light, rest assured that you and your baby should be just fine. Moreover, there is no evidence that sexual activity in late pregnancy increases the risk of preterm delivery between 29 and 36 weeks gestation. Research found that women who had orgasms during late pregnancy also reduced their risk of preterm delivery.
So, while sex may be considered good and good for you during pregnancy, you may have some surprising "side effects" from certain sexual activities during pregnancy—particularly late in pregnancy. You might notice leaking of a milky substance from your breasts, mild abdominal cramps if your partner fondles your breasts, changes in vaginal lubrication, discomfort and soreness in the vagina, cramping, or a little urine leakage. These are all relatively normal. You may also find that some sexual positions are more comfortable and satisfying than others. However, if the cramping continues for hours after having sex or if bleeding occurs, call your health care provider just to be on the safe side-it is never a bad idea to check with your provider for any symptoms that you find worrisome.
Even if you don't wish to have intercourse, don't let physical intimacy slip away. Find other ways to remain physically close to your sweetheart, such as cuddling, kissing, giving each other massages, even just holding hands. Remember, it's important that you don't forget that you are a couple first, as you move into this next phase of your life together. Talk about the changes your body is going through and the things you're noticing-during sex and otherwise-to help your partner understand what to expect.

Loss of Libido in Men


Lack of sexual drive is a medical condition that can stem from multiple issues in men. Lack of sexual drive in men is often confused with erectile dysfunction problems. A man who is facing problems in getting an erection doesn't necessarily has a low sexual drive. It is just that the physical inability to get an erection may raise self-esteem issues leading to depression and consequently loss of libido in men. It be stated here that sexual health is an integral component of overall physical and mental health of an individual. Poor sexual performance is closely related to healthy self-esteem and if a man faces problem in sexual functioning he may feel depressed and can be emotionally withdrawn from the partner.

Loss of Libido in Men: Tracking the Culprits

Loss of libido in men over 50 can be related to aging issues. With increase in age, it is perfectly normal to experience episodes of low libido; however, lack of sexual drive in young men or rather middle aged men requires clinical treatment. For older men, who're gradually heading towards 50, it is natural to feel effects of aging and lifestyle changes can ensure that sexual health is not diminished. Enlisted below are some causes of low male libido.

    Alcohol abuse or rather alcoholism remains the biggest culprit when it comes to impotency in men. Watch out your drinking habits and you'll realize what is causing the whole problem.
    Frequent consumption of controlled substances like cocaine.
    Being overweight that falls in the range of obesity may often raise several health issues interfering with problems of low sex drive.
    Hormonal disturbances in the body can also lead to fluctuating sexual drive in men. Sudden loss of libido in men can be related to under or over production of hormone regulated by the pituitary gland.
    Lack of physical inactivity paving the path for numerous physical and mental issues like stress and feeling of discomfort in the body.
    Medications that are used in testicle, prostate and reproduction related treatments may also result in lack of sex drive in men.
    Low testosterone levels can be another reason for diminished urge to have sex.
    Major medical conditions like diabetes, high blood pressure and cardiovascular diseases.
    Stress and workload leading to exhaustion, fatigue and mental confusion. Normal stress is necessary but if stress is impairing your ability to focus on your personal life, it is dangerous.
    The general notion is that men rarely have emotions which is wrong. Men are very emotional creatures though they may not like to reveal it. Depression due to any past trauma - failure, accidents, bad sexual experience, childhood trauma and even lack of self-esteem are causes for loss of libido in men.
    Relationship problems like mutual understanding, deep emotional connectivity, homosexuality issues, lack of physical attraction, boredom in relationship and very often conflict in views regarding sexual desires can also cause loss of male libido.

Treatment for loss of libido in men requires a holistic treatment methodology. If lack of sexual drive is connected to psychological issues like depression and lack of self-esteem, counseling can be of tremendous help. Psychological issues can be controlled and there are extremely helpful therapies that can ease the debilitating questions in mind thereby ending any sort of mental trauma. In case of medical issues, proper diagnosis can track the cause of reduced libido. Many times, natural libido enhancers help a great deal. Issues like normal testosterone levels or problems in testicles, prostate can be diagnosed to provide suitable treatment options. There are various ways to increase libido that will come to your help at this time. Schedule an appointment with an expert medical doctor and inform him everything about how you feel, your past medications, issues of drugs and alcohol (if any). Under able guidance of an expert doctor, loss of libido is very much treatable.

Low Sex Drive


Introduction

Apart from the time when the sexual body of a guy was still getting matured, there have been umpteen encounters of women who have faced the wrath of them being developed completely. In other words, ever since their development was complete, they have been raring to get themselves to charge at any time, so as to speak. Part of the problem has always been the fact that guys have posed as light bulbs at any given time, much to the chagrin of a female's hormonal imbalances. The issue of getting turned on by the male side is not any issue with them really. It is with women who suffer most pangs of a lowered sex drive. While males would love to have sex almost 6 times in a week with a restful day for them and their counter parts most women would not agree for the same. It is probably not the same for the woman. There are many times when certain amount of medication that affects their systems, or even putting on weight that causes a hindrance for them to take part in sexual activities.

Possibilities
There are a few possibilities that we might need to examine before we really conclude reasons for this lowered sexual drive. There are some who are fed up with the same sexual position, but perhaps don't know for sure that this may be the reason for boredom in the bedroom. There are some who are probably medically unfit for having a healthy sex life. Hypothyroidism is another great reason for low sex drive. Hormonal imbalances may not always look all that severe but the fact is that they are known to be doses of slow poison that seep through our lives without we being completely involved in the process.

Domestic problems and improper understanding amongst both partners can also be another reason for their worry as the mind, especially the sub conscious mind never forgets. It slowly deprives your vagina to get all that heated up and lubricated, so much so that even if you want to change the situation and get there, it is rather difficult as you've already frozen your system.

Certain amount of prolonged illness may also provide to this problem. But most importantly, this occurs after the birth of a child, especially after the first child. The trauma of childbirth as it were and the boon of breast feeding is a feeling so orgasmic that the need for sex is thrown out of the window. It is always a case with men feeling left out after a baby is born. First the woman needs to get back on track with her body and the new entrant in life and secondly, the joy of holding the little bundle of joy in one's arms is so great that all other joys that seem momentary are eluded.

For fathers, it is quite a different case altogether. Men need to feel loved and unlike women, their need for this sort of love is through sex. Women tend to draw in closer after their new life gets set after the baby and it is perhaps nothing short of boredom, that brings them closer to their man again. For men too, erection problems and their pot bellies can pose a threat to their sexual life. To pump your lady with your stream of love can only be possible to your satisfaction if you have a normal, and less bloated tummy. Sure your libido might be high but if your body isn't in your hands then it is quite depressing for a man to fulfill his lover's needs. It is in this scenario that a man often loses his erection, causing a lowered sexual drive in him. He may be turned on by a sexy lady by his side, but if he cannot perform, something that's absolutely essential for him as a man, then he's already lost the battle even before he began!

Solutions
An interesting feature of this sort of a problem is that out of the many cases reported, it is almost always women who suffer from a low sex drive. Sexologists have tried understanding the real reason, but none of them have even the remotest idea for this problem. Although there may be millions of reasons why men and women suffer from this, the only way to put back the zing in your life would be to bring in large doses of variation - ideas, places to positions, to even spells of abstinence, the punch line is to remain fit, with gymnastic levels of stretching your body, to even keeping your self busy.

It is quite another thing if you have a physical impediment like thyroid hampering yourself to sexual freedom and quite another when you be a loner. The former still has miles to go in allowing people to reach their sexual gratification, the latter, however, can be dealt with, with the methods mentioned, with a dash of creativity thrown in, after all if you really wanna live a fulfilling life, along with right eating and exercise, it is also huge doses of gratifying sex that can do the trick!

What do men want?

Most men are alike. When some aren't, they are considered feminine, and yet there are others who first fall in the category of being great and then to the not-so-great category. Whatever do I mean? Well let's start from the beginning. Most men believe that they are the most important species that we women are dealing with. Sure they may be great with numbers, especially with telephone numbers of some great leggy females, they are still their stages of infancy when it comes to feelings. Most men are visually stimulated, they have to see everything to understand and believe. From a really great pair of legs to an adequately pleasing bosom.

A woman needs to be stroked and felt, while a man has already been stroked by his mere vision. He doesn't need to purr, her just speaks his mind and sees it. This is perhaps the reason why men seem to get aroused much faster than women would. Most men love to be ahead of everything, be it career or sex. If they cannot find themselves to get on to the top of it all, they lose interest. Most of the time, a man challenges himself into believing that he can be the best lover and although he may not vibe with the feelings of the heart, he does pursue the issue only because he knows that he can get his woman laid, in this manner.

Another shortcoming that he might face as compared to women is that men cannot understand images. They are trained in the physical aspects of life, which may range from making tree houses to even making their own homes. They cannot imagine that most of the planning can be done in advance so as to make their own lives easier a little later. Women are genetically inclined to literary arts and poetry, which makes them the "feeling" people. People who can understand, feel and more importantly visualize. It is no wonder then that most women can partake in the mass appreciation of pornographic stories and pictures. Men only use these as objects to get a massive turn on, again a visual aspect and not related to imagery. Most men prefer to have the light on, perhaps a little dim too as the thrill to watch a woman naked is perhaps unmatched to any other in the world. Women almost always need to have the light off.

Sex .... A physical need!
Sex is always a physical game for most men. During my survey of wild sex I encountered ninety four percent of men seeking sex in the animated form. For them sex need not prescribe to the notion of being loved. Yes love is a part of it, not the heart of it. Sex was always a beast-like affair. One that involved huge fight-like encounter, with both partners wanting for more. This is so because for them, sex is only sex and nothing more. Its more like a pornographic movie, the more the better. Most of them understand the huge importance of drugs used to virtually increase sexual stimulation that can last for hours together, without any breaks. One man was hugely candid about saying that sex was more of a release of tension, of tensed nerves as it were, so the more release the better. The frequency of sex also mattered.

They did not quite understand the need for arousal or foreplay, as their typical need for foreplay usually spans around for 5-7 minutes, after which the real action needed to be turned on, as if a switch for releasing the mass of tension locked behind the sexual organs. Another gentle man-made it rather clear that it was most important for men to experience the first bout of sex with a virgin.

The blood dripping out of a woman's vagina was an experience he felt should be appreciated and tasted by all. The color red was so sexually stimulating he noted that even though he might for a time believe that it might be painful for the lady, its lure was unmatched to anything else in the world. Phew, quite ravenous, what say?